Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Oneness

Have you ever heard a spiritual teacher say that all is really ONE, that we are all one with everything and everyone? And that it so important to love everyone and everyting in order to live a whole and full life?
Well I’ve heard that a lot, wondering how on earth is that possible? I have even thought with all these stupid ignorant people, that are destructive and annoying it is impossible to feel love for everyone. And all those people that have hurt your feelings or your body in any way! Seeing things from that perspective it sure makes sense to believe in heaven and hell, and to hang on to a revengeful god and hope that karma or the justice system will one day pay them back as deserved. You might even have taken matters into your own hands and done something revengeful to another.

It has taken me many years, but I’ve finally found a place within myself where I’m able to really let go of those thoughts.

I want you to know that I too have been in a place in my life, where I blamed others for all things going wrong in my life. For a period early in my adult life, I blamed my parents for my unhappiness, later I blamed my (now ex) husband, I have blamed my siblings, coworkers, friends, strangers , the government and even my children for my own unhappiness.

So how does one go from there to this bliss of love for everything?

I think the answer to that is different for everyone. I’ve read a lot of different theories on how spiritual teachers, coaches and gurus have made that transition, and the common nominator is that they all found their own way. Some have used meditation, others prayer or they have perhaps had visions or experiences with the fourth dimension that has inspired them.
For me it has been, and still is a process and a work in progress. Through some tough times I have figured out that it all comes down to choice. We may not always feel we choose what happens to us and with us, but we do always have the free will to choose how we deal with it. That goes for EVERYTHING and EVERYONE in your life. However, having lived many years or even decades of blaming, or experiencing lack of control over your destiny, it takes time to change the pattern of thoughts that brought you where you are emotionally.

I don’t intend to tell you how to live your life, or what to do to experience love for everything, but I can provide you with some of the things that helped me on my path. I don’t feel that love all the time, and in fact I don’t know of anyone that is walking this earth that feels like that all the time!
Some of what I’ve learned has been through other teachers and some has dawned upon me long after hearing or reading about it.
So here is a list of some of the things that have dawned upon me:
• You are where you are in life, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Don’t expect quantum leaps or blame yourself for where you are. Going from feeling “off” to feeling wonderful is a process through all the emotions in between. Remember that there is nothing wrong with being angry or sad, you just don’t want to stay there too long.

• Often we have routines of thought that make us feel miserable, without us even realizing it. Start listening to what you say to yourself and you will be able to stop yourself before you lose control.

• Listening to negativity never makes us feel good. How about turning off the TV, ignoring discussions on what is wrong with everything and instead listening to music that makes you feel good? You will also find that people in general rather want to be positive, so by making positive remarks, you can help others as well as yourself turning negative discussions around.

• What you have experienced makes you unique and valuable to the world. It is your own uniqueness that is your biggest asset. Sometimes we need “bad” experiences to help us see something really important.

• Holding a grudge for another only makes YOU miserable. Just read the sentence word for word… why would you want to hold something negative FOR someone. They are capable of holding that stuff themselves, it’s not your responsibility. If you are able to see that, and chose to let go of negative emotions towards others, you are taking a big step towards controlling your experiences.

• Try focusing on the positive in everyone and everything. Often times it is too big of a challenge to do that when things are in your face, so to speak. Start with something easy, like your lover, your child, your pet or even your bed. After a while you will find that you are able to enjoy things you thought you hated, like washing the toilet or picking up trash from your driveway.

• It is of great value that we all are as different as we are. Just imagine what the world would be like if no one wanted to produce food, build houses or pick up the garbage! Isn’t it really wonderful that someone wants to serve the world by doing all the stuff you don’t want to do?

To me it was too big of a challenge to start loving everyone so I had to go through appreciation. I realized that through listening to wonderful Angela Gower-Johnson when she was a guest on Sydney Chase’s talk show, The Indigo Room.
I have mentioned the teachings of Abraham earlier in my blog, and they have influenced my life big time the past years. The core of their teachings is get happy! So I’ll round up this blog post by inviting you to contact me if you feel within yourself that I could contribute to your life in some way. Feel free to comment or send me an e-mail by clicking the envelope below.
Sigridur

Monday, March 29, 2010

What a life!

It’s incredible that its 7 months since my last post here. I must have been really busy doing fun stuff! Oh, and yes I have.


I got a new job in the beginning of October, and hence quit the courses I had started at school. After all I already got my Bachelors degree, and was only attending school till the right job showed up.
I have been working on a national project for the Ministry of Health. We were originally 5 women from different backgrounds, plus a project manager who happens to be a woman too. Before getting the job, I concentrated on finding out within myself what kind of a workplace I wanted, how I wanted to feel at work, and what sort of people I would be working with. To make the story super short, I got everything I asked for.
I would never have thought of applying for that job, if I hadn’t been contacted by the national employment agency on another job. After being on an interview there, they told me I would probably get the job, but then the employer decided rather to start up a new group with all new employees and they asked me to apply for that one. That´s the job I got, and now hold. I love my group of peeps at work, and appreciate them very much. We all feel that our boss did a perfect job assembling the group, so I once asked her what was the criteria for choosing us. After all over 60 people applied. She told me she used her gut feeling this time, because she had tried not doing that on some other rounds of hiring people, and regretted it. So usin your instinct is the perfect way to hire the right people. How wonderful is that??
The work we do is very meaningful and the hours are great, the group is the best and the pay is fine.
At first we just got contracts till June 30. but have since been offered 3 more months. Now there is some negotiation going on concerning possible 3 more months.
We have had an extremely steep learning curve, and have gained knowledge and insight that is quite sought after, both within the organization and elsewhere, so we won’t have to worry about being unemployed any time soon, regardless of the lifespan of the project. In fact, for a short period of time we were 11 people working together, all new to the game and now we´re just 5 left plus the project manager. The rest have been hired full time elsewhere in the organisation.

However, I have applied for a new job, which I really hope to get!

What else have I been up to???
• Being mom to my 2 teenagers has been challenging at times and my pre-teen is really starting to show her stubborn and decisive self lately. Being their mom can be challenging at times and a wonderful learning tool too.
• Learning heaps of new stuff about me and others. I’ve been following lovely miss Sidney Chase on the Indigo Room for more than 2 years now, and keep learning new things and finding new friends. I really love those peeps! Will post more one them later.
• I went to Iceland for Christmas together with my kids. It was a wonderful time in every way. We got to visit my closest family, spent many hours talking and playing and having loads of fun.
• January 15th I attended the most memorable seminar ever, together with everyone from work.
• I have gotten closer to my dad than ever before, even though he lives on the other side of the Atlantic Ocean.
… and probably a whole lot more.
I figure it is best to stop here, and rather discuss some of this stuff in depth with you one on one, or in another blog post.
Love and light to you